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Written by Donna Amrita Davidge   

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We may have all heard this before: “Embrace the moment,” but what exactly does that mean to you today? For many people, embracing the moment in the current climate is something that seems impossible. It seemed easier when they had a job, thought they had their retirement set and had health insurance. And now they don’t have these things. That is the reality for many. People are losing homes, the pressures strain relationships and loving families have to give their pets up to shelters. Are these things we can embrace? What does it mean to embrace them? "Embrace" brings up images of loving joy in receiving something that makes us happy. How can we embrace the Now if it is filled with uncertainty?

The truth is that there is no certainty for anyone. I have seen friends who are married to men with lots of money, seemingly having all they want, beautiful children especially, and then they get hit with life-threatening illnesses. No one is assured that anything they embrace will guarantee good fortune and health. A few years ago I was asked to teach a very wealthy businessman how to meditate. Unfortunately his brother was dying of cancer and he said he could not meditate because it brought up thoughts of his brother. Of course it would for a learning practitioner. That is what the mind does first. To train it to observe and not judge or be freaked out by what comes up only comes with practice. Needless to say, the man gave up the sessions rather quickly. Meditation does not solve the problems; it helps our mind handles them better. Being unable to sit with his thoughts for even a minute, he gave up trying. He also said he felt like he was missing out on “doing” and all that life was when he just sat. Actually, our doing becomes more effective when we have a meditation practice and allow our minds and bodies to stop doing but just be and observe on a regular basis, ideally, the same time and place daily.

So where does yoga come into all these seemingly non-uplifting circumstances? The test of a true yoga practitioner is not how they do when things are going great but how they do when things are not.

Recently we had the opportunity to offer our first small teacher training at Sewall House. Amidst the immersions in yoga technology and methodology we had Linda Rowe, a yoga teacher from Houlton, Maine join us to lead our discussions on Yoga Sutras; Chapters One and Two. Linda talked a lot about the lessons life gives us and that she would much prefer the “feather” lessons to the “brick” ones.

That image seemed like a good one to relate to what many people are experiencing these days in their lives. Even though most of us would opt for a feather over a brick, sometimes the brick comes sailing our way anyway.

It seems all these extreme changes in our lives may be one of the reasons yoga is catching on so much in the last few years. An ancient science comes full circle to help us look differently at the material things that have so consumed us so we can instead look inwardly. How could being laid off be a good thing? Maybe we have had no time to really look at ourselves and our short life and what we want to be and do and give, and what is really important to us in the scheme of it all. Without health insurance we can take measures to be preventative in our own health care and reduce the risk that we'll need expensive health care if we eat healthier (which in yoga means eliminating meat), do away with alcohol and drugs, and watch even our thoughts and how they affect our health. The asanas, or poses, in yoga offer a proven way to holistically exercise the body, helping the internal organs, nerves and mind. Even if you don’t practice yoga for spiritual purposes or as a lifestyle but simply as an exercise, this can greatly benefit your mind and body, as well as your way of breathing. This is not to lessen the challenges and stress that big changes in our life can create.

These things are real. Yet in yoga we get a moment to step back and perhaps change the way we experience and look at these things. One woman at our retreat had to cut her staff at her business but said it actually helped them prioritize who was truly useful in their job. One young man discovered that the fast paced achievement, oriented life in NYC, was not helping his overall life experience, especially when he had a recurrence of a tumor that he had been free of for five years before moving into this lifestyle. He began to change his eating habits, took up yoga and even try meditation; he also decided to leave his job for six months and is on the way to creating his own job and lifestyle in his homeland of Australia, creating the way to embrace the changes that will make his life more meaningful to him as a lawyer, husband and man in our society.

Often we think our lives should be one way but circumstances arrive to urge us to see it can be another way.

Our time on earth is short. Yoga, an ancient science, has come full circle to help us handle the challenges of the information age. My teacher Yogi Bhajan suggested that the information age we are in would be tough for many. He suggested we help these people through the changes with our experiences and with the teachings of yoga that we can share with others. Ultimately it is up to the student to practice the teachings and honor the process along the way. Our job is to direct and have compassion for the oneness in us all, embracing each person as an individual on their own journey, which hopefully we can assist them with in some small way.


Donna Amrita Davidge and her husband Kent Bonham own and operate Sewall House Yoga Retreat in Island Falls, Maine. Small and personalized, the retreat center was established in 1997, built in 1860. Donna and Kent have watched their vision unfold with all its rewards and challenges. Sewall House operates May through October, Italy yoga trip scheduled October 27th – November 2nd, off-season retreats by special arrangement for parties of 3 or more. www.sewallhouse.com 888-235-2395. Inquire about teacher training beginning October 10th for three 9 day retreats/February/May.