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Dear Asrianna,

My entire life I’ve been plagued by feelings of not being alone even when there’s no one else in the room. When I was little, I had nightmares that were so real I eventually had to sleep with the light on and even to this day I don’t like the dark. My parents weren’t very supportive and told me it was all in my mind, that I was being overdramatic and too imaginative. They were also very religious and in my upbringing anything remotely paranormal was considered demonic. So I feel completely unprepared for the fact that my 6-year-old son seems to be able to sense the same things I did when I was his age, including his having nightmares. How do I help him so that he doesn’t suffer like I did?

Signed, Still Afraid of the Dark

Dear Still,

All things are energy. You, I, the chair we sit in, and the very air we breathe. We tend, in our culture, to discard what isn’t readily tangible, but it doesn’t take quantum physics to tell us we’re energy—atoms bouncing against each other in vibratory patterns—physics 101 tells us this. And some individuals have a keen sense of recognizing those energetic patterns. Children are particularly sensitive to feeling this energy, as are animals. It’s perfectly natural, but we lack a supportive framework from which to integrate this into our day-to-day lives.

Your ability to help your son will depend a great deal on your willingness to reframe your own psychic tendencies. If you continue to see your own ability as frightening and suspect, as being even slightly “demonic,” then you’ll transmit your trepidation to your son and will perpetuate a cycle of misinformation, misinterpretation, fear and avoidance. As you’ve already realized, this only pushes those experiences to the subconscious where they reemerge more terrifying than ever in the darkness of our dreams.

If your son was blessed with a beautiful singing voice, you’d find a way to honor and value his gift even as you worked to keep him in the mainstream of life. You’d acknowledge the uniqueness of his ability, you’d hone his skills by making available teachers and opportunities to understand the range of his voice, but you’d be wise to allow him to feel like any other kid his age. You’d help him realize the value and gift of his voice, even as you allowed him to feel the familiar security of normalcy and predictability. What our children deeply desire is to feel safe, loved, and protected and when their parent radiates fear, the child feels adrift.

It’s not clear to me from your letter just how much of your son’s experiences are due to psychic mediumistic gifts—the ability to sense the presence of disembodied spirits, for instance—and what is your projected perception of his experiences. He may have the rather normal, occasional nightmares of a six-year-old yet, because of the events of your childhood, you assume he shares your exact history. That being said, let’s assume he does sense energies.

First, listen to him. If your son has a nightmare, be comforting and available and let him tell you the details, but don’t feed him ideas or information. Treat his words with respect and a matter-of-fact practicality, neither making too much of his experience nor discounting his descriptions and fears. The key is to empower him, to help him to feel he can respond to what seems unusual and fearful with calm and strength.

Help him design nightly rituals that give him a sense of security, such as reading bedtime stories with humorous or uplifting messages, or saying a simple prayer—if that is appropriate for you and your family—making sure not to emphasize fear or the need for excessive protection, which will merely give him more cause to believe his worry is well-founded.

Designating a favorite stuffed animal as his companion and helper at night can also strengthen your son’s sense of security. A night light can be of benefit if he’s to the point where he can’t sleep in the dark. If he feels there’s energy in his room that doesn’t allow him to sleep, help him to feel as if he can calmly tell it to leave, that it’s his room and nothing is allowed to bother him. Asserting his right to feel comfortable in his own room can begin a process in which he takes back his strength and refuses to feel bullied.

All children need to be loved, nurtured, and taught to value their innate talents, skills and abilities. Those with profound psychic gifts are no different and you’ve already taken the right steps by wanting to move beyond your own fears in order to help your son have a different experience than your own.

Many blessings, Asrianna

Asrianna Dameron is a Psychic Medium, a Certified Hypnotherapist, and a Certified Past Life Regressionist in private practice. She offers individual sessions and gallery readings as well as workshops and speaking engagements on the topics of Psychic Development, Mediumship, Energy Management and Shamanic Healing. Asrianna can be reached and your questions answered at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it , by visiting her website at www.asrianna.com, by visiting her at Facebook, or by calling (603) 892-1268.